Got your Mother's Day gift yet? Research from the National Retail Federation shows average per person spending this year is about $284. So before you go spending all that money, make sure it's for something the moms in your life actually want. I spoke to Elspeth Belton, Good Housekeeping's editor in chief, to get some do's and don'ts for Mother's Day. What should we not get mom for Mother's Day? Gifts that make more work for mom. I can confirm that mom does not want kitchen gear for Mother's Day. I once watched my father gift my mom *** new set of dinnerware, and based on her reaction, we're going to want to avoid the kitchen altogether. Similarly, you may think that that fancy robot vacuum that you have in mind is actually going to take work off of mom's plate, but ultimately vacuums are *** gift for the household, not for mom. So what should we get for mom instead? You're Going to green light self-care as *** gifting category for mom, you're gonna want to go *** step further from the gift certificate and actually book mom that appointment at the spa or at her facialist. Maybe get her *** round of yoga classes at her favorite studio or buy her some comfy loungewear from her favorite activewear brand. These are not gifts that encourage mom to work out. These are gifts that help appreciate the mental load that mom shoulders every day. Jewelry is another popular gift, making up the largest chunk of annual Mother's Day spending, $7.5 billion. I can confirm that jewelry never gets old and, and with all of the great lab grown gemstones on the market these days, high quality jewelry has never been more accessible. Is it? Ever *** good idea to get *** new mom *** gift that's really for the kids. That's *** really easy trap to fall into. We often see specifically for new moms with infants, *** gift that is like *** really beautiful outfit for the baby, but those are ultimately gifts for the child and not for mum. If you have young kids and you want to get them involved in the gift giving. Process, what are some good ways to go about that? Definitely start with *** handwritten card. These carry real meaning and never go out of style. If your child wants to make art for mom, you're just gonna want to consider how big is the art that we're that we're giving mom, because again, we don't want to make more work for mom and having her try to find *** place where she has to display this really massive piece of artwork. This should go without saying, but I'm going to say it anyway. When in doubt, ask your mom what she actually wants, right, mom? Right. I'd love some Sketchers sneakers, an Etsy gift card, *** Home Depot gift card, or even *** surprise. It is nice. All right, noted. Reporting in New York, I'm Ali Jasinski.